Thursday, April 19, 2012

A Little Thing Called Women's Intuition Told Me So

A woman's intuition is an extremely powerful mind process. Some don't believe in it. Men hate it's existence. "It's not real" or "It's bullshit" are usually the claims. If they start with this, there is only one reason: they have been caught. That little thing called women's intuition did them in. Their ex got a feeling, acted on it and justified or not, the outcome was not what they wanted. 
Call it a feeling in your gut, bones, whatever. It's real.
A woman just KNOWS things, plain and simple. She can sense if her man (or woman, I don't judge) is cheating, if something is wrong with a loved one, if her child needs help, anything. It might start as a random thought, then it becomes a 'might-happen', then the intuition kicks in and sometimes bad things are prevented.
What is the difference between intuition and paranoia? Is there one?
Yes. If you sit and think about what is bothering you (rationally of course), you can decide on your own. Ask a friend or family member for their advice. Another person's point of view sometimes helps. Intuition is a feeling something is wrong. Paranoia drives you crazy thinking the worst.
I will use myself as an example. One day, my husband came home from work, babbling on about some chick he worked with. I thought nothing of it because I'm not a jealous person. Next thing, they became Facebook friends. Again, nothing new. He had a bunch of people from work on there. She started commenting on everything he posted. I was a little 'wtf' but not letting it bother me. Two days later, I couldn't shake the feeling something was up. It came out of nowhere! My intuition kicked in and I called a friend of mine. She told me that seemed kind of fishy and to investigate. I did. What I found truly shocked me. I found a post he made to her page that seemed a little friendlier than it should have been. I asked him about it and he buckled and muttered something. THEN my paranoia kicked in. I became the person I hated most - the snooping wife. He was obsessively looking at her photos while at work WITH HER! I later found out they had been texting... and even calling. The cell phone bill came in one month and he tore me a new one about all my usage. I thought 'no way' and checked the bill. My heart dropped. I was right. It wasn't me! My paranoia ended up validating my intuition.

Should you act on your intuitions? That is up to you. Think about it rationally and if the situation feels right and all the pieces fit, then by all means do what you feel is right.

What do you think? Is women's intuition bull or the real thing?

Monday, April 9, 2012

Biggest Regret Reveal: Romantic?

"My biggest regret was not being with you when I had the chance".

Do you find that statement romantic? When it was said to me, I absolutely called bullshit. My question to them was if you deemed me 'undate-able' back then, what is so different now? The way I saw it was this person had no romantic entanglements at the moment and was trying to see if there was a chance I would take the bait. As I was discussing with a friend, she said "Aw that is so romantic. He wants to rekindle what you might have had."
Sorry, but no. I think that is just sad and pathetic, to be honest.
If you wanted to be with me, you should have taken the chance when it was offered. Plus, he is basically telling me that he wasn't 100% in his last relationship, which lasted almost 9 years. That is supposed to make him more attractive? That is a ridiculously long time to be with someone when your heart is elsewhere. Am I supposed to jump at the chance to be with someone who was mentally cheating on his girlfriend? He chose her over me. Plain and simple. So now that he is willing to give "us" a shot, I should fall into his arms and let him sweep me off my feet?

No thanks!